Objects of desire are interesting to think about, particularly when it comes to our own. The things we want or don't want say a lot about us. I recently realized, many of my desires are now experience based as opposed to possession based: skydiving license, scuba, travel, climbing, rafting, fine food. Sure, most possessions are owned to create an experience, but my focus has changed. It's one thing to focus on the motorcycle and another to focus on the experience of riding it. It's one thing to want to travel to a specific destination to check it off a list and another entirely to revel in the experiences offered there.
Not saying these types of desires are better than others. Just saying it's a focus shift. Even desires for influence, stability, knowledge, and a health are about the experiences of life. It's one thing to say I want to be knowledgeable and another to say I want to be able to communicate with all types of people. It's one thing to say I want a great wife and a puppy and another to say why I want those things and how specifically they will contribute to my life experience.
By focusing on the "why" as opposed to the "what" we can better decide where to place our energies and better define the "what" when considering the options.
